lesson 22

Extensions:

Translate this...

A translator helps people who speak different languages to understand each other. On the lines below, describe a situation that you feel strongly about and are willing to discuss with others. For example: angry about your unfair curfew.

I really get angry when my dad doesn't understand when I talk to my friends on the internet to work on projects. He always thinks I've been talking to them since I got on the computer. Well I haven't, and I don't see, since I don't have their phone numbers, and they aren't right beside me, how I am supposed to communicate with my partners in any way. He is right about how staring at the screen hurts my eyes, but it's kind of annoying when he yells at me as soon as he sees me on gmail -.-

In groups of three, tell your story. One person will play the role of the Translator and listen genuinely to the emotional content and words. The Translator will then convey your feelings and words to the third person who will give a mirroring response back to you.When you have finished, switch roles so that each person gets to play the role of the Translator.

Uh, I play the part of the translater...
Someone is annoyed at their parents for not enough work time on their computer. I translate to the parent why the child needs the computer and why it is very important that the person gets to use it. The parent starts yelling back about how they should limit their time on the computer, or else their eyes will go bad. I translate with a nice tone of voice that the parent is just telling you to use less time on the computer for the person's own good.

Family Reflections:

Get your family together and decide to practice listening with your heart this week. Discuss among your family how you all feel when you're really listened to.

When we are listened to, we tend to feel more cared for, and somebody actually understands you. It kind of gives you more of a sense of belonging in your home.

lesson 21

... apparently no extensions?

Family Reflections:

As a family, do you sometimes find yourselves not listening to each other? Does your family use some of the same inattentive listening styles that you saw on the video?

I sometimes listen to my mom using the pretend listening style, because I was doing something else, I just wasn't interested to what my parents were talking about. My dad sometimes uses the word style, because maybe he doesn't really understand what I was trying to say. My mom listens to me most of the time.

lesson 20

From now on, I will be writing my go stuff here

Lesson 20 extensions:

Win-win agreement form:

Date:
Party one: My dad Party two: Me

What are the desired results?

I will wash the dishes so my dad can have time to help me with a homework

What are the available resources?

my homework and the dishes...?

What are the guide lines?

I will wash the dishes while my dad looks over my homework.

How will progress be seen?

I will finish wash the dishes, and he will finish looking over my work so he can help me

What are the concequences/benefits if completed or not?

The benefit will be my dad will help me, and he doesn't have to wash dishes.

Lesson 20 family reflections:

Are there any situations at home that could benefit or be guided more clearly by drawing up a win-win agreement?

Yes there is. I can make a deal with my mom, that I will clean the toilet every sunday, and she could let me make more smoothies by myself :D I do not like cleaning the toilet, and this agreement will settle alot of arguements.