Extensions:
-Watch the sunset tonight or get up early and watch the sunrise. (Sharpening the saw or Quadrant 2)
-People-watch at your local mall or store and observe what their body language is saying. (Seek to understand, then to be understood)
-Brainstorm with your friends and come up with something fun, new, and different to do this weekend, instead of doing the same old thing again and again. (Synergize)
-The next time someone close to you succeeds, be genuinely happy for him or her instead of feeling threatened. (Think win-win)
-Before heading to bed, write a simple apology note to someone you may have offended recently. (Emotional Bank Account or EBA)
-Identify and write down your goals so that you can work towards them. (Begin with end in mind)
-Decide to start using your planner to get your time better planned. (Put first things first)
-Push the pause button before you react to someone who accidentally bumps you in the hall, causing all of your books for the next class to fly in all directions. (Be proactive)
Family Reflections:
Review the 7 Habits' with your family. Are there any Habits that seem to be more challenging to you than others? How can you work as a team to incorporate all of the Habits into your lives?
The habit "be proactive" seems more challenging because sometimes you just can't help but act the way you do. We can remind each other each time we say something reactive to help each other get out of the habit/
Monday, June 7, 2010
Lesson 32
Extensions:
Er...
Family Reflections:
What concept or weekly lesson has your family most benefited from? Reflect on how it has been good for you and your family relationships.
I think my family benefited from the Sharpening the Saw, because it helped us realize that it was important to renew ourselves on a daily basis than to go none stop because you will run out of fuel sooner or later.
Er...
Family Reflections:
What concept or weekly lesson has your family most benefited from? Reflect on how it has been good for you and your family relationships.
I think my family benefited from the Sharpening the Saw, because it helped us realize that it was important to renew ourselves on a daily basis than to go none stop because you will run out of fuel sooner or later.
Lesson 31
Extensions:
Body: Exercises and do different kinds of activities to keep healthy. Remember to eat healthy as well.
Heart: Spend more time with your family and friends, and keep the EBA in all your relationships in balance.
Brain: Read and strive to learn new things. Never stop learning!
Soul: Spend more time relaxing and observing nature, like watching the sun rise, or listening to birds chirping.
Family Reflections:
Go around and rate each family member on how well you all renew yourselves in the four areas.
If it's marked 1-5, I would give the following:
My mom:
Body- 4 (does exercise but not that regularly)
Heart- 5 (makes time for family)
Brain- 5 (reads everyday before bed)
Soul - 4 (sometimes sits by the balcony and just stares outside.... )
My dad:
Body- 2 (doesn't exercise, though sometimes stating that he does, but I never see it ==)
Heart- 3 (always sits by his computer, seldom comes out and talks to us)
Brain- 4 (He is pretty smart, and he reads these computer engineering books that I don't understand before bed)
Soul-2 (I have never seen him do anything of this sort anyways...)
Me:
Body - 5 (We all run every other day in PE, I dance on the weekends, and I pretty much run to school every few days XD )
Heart- 3 (I sometimes make time for family and friends)
Brain-4 (Sometimes read)
Soul- 3 (I would really want to just relax and just interact with nature, but can never seem to find time to...)
Body: Exercises and do different kinds of activities to keep healthy. Remember to eat healthy as well.
Heart: Spend more time with your family and friends, and keep the EBA in all your relationships in balance.
Brain: Read and strive to learn new things. Never stop learning!
Soul: Spend more time relaxing and observing nature, like watching the sun rise, or listening to birds chirping.
Family Reflections:
Go around and rate each family member on how well you all renew yourselves in the four areas.
If it's marked 1-5, I would give the following:
My mom:
Body- 4 (does exercise but not that regularly)
Heart- 5 (makes time for family)
Brain- 5 (reads everyday before bed)
Soul - 4 (sometimes sits by the balcony and just stares outside.... )
My dad:
Body- 2 (doesn't exercise, though sometimes stating that he does, but I never see it ==)
Heart- 3 (always sits by his computer, seldom comes out and talks to us)
Brain- 4 (He is pretty smart, and he reads these computer engineering books that I don't understand before bed)
Soul-2 (I have never seen him do anything of this sort anyways...)
Me:
Body - 5 (We all run every other day in PE, I dance on the weekends, and I pretty much run to school every few days XD )
Heart- 3 (I sometimes make time for family and friends)
Brain-4 (Sometimes read)
Soul- 3 (I would really want to just relax and just interact with nature, but can never seem to find time to...)
Thursday, June 3, 2010
Lesson 30
Extensions:
1) Read the following story and respond on the lines below how this story can be related to keeping ourselves fit in all areas of life.
This story shows that you have to take time to relax and let yourself rest before exerting yourself too much, or else you will accomplish very little even though you do things non-stop. You need to exercise and keep fit in order to not burn out, like the chainsaw. If he had taken time to sharpen it, it would cut way faster than not sharpening and not resting.
Family Reflections:
What does your family do to renew and refresh the health of your relationships? Plan an outing or a family fun night.
To refresh the health of our relationships, we go out to eat and we watch tv or play board games together. We usually eat out on Saturdays, so it's considered as an outing?
1) Read the following story and respond on the lines below how this story can be related to keeping ourselves fit in all areas of life.
You are walking through the woods one day and come upon a lumberjack who's furiously working at cutting fallen trees into logs. You notice that he's having a very difficult time of it. It seems to you that the chain on his chainsaw has become so dull that the saw barely cuts at all.
You ask him why he doesn't sharpen his chain. He replies, "I've got to get these logs cut. I can't take the time to sharpen my saw."
This story shows that you have to take time to relax and let yourself rest before exerting yourself too much, or else you will accomplish very little even though you do things non-stop. You need to exercise and keep fit in order to not burn out, like the chainsaw. If he had taken time to sharpen it, it would cut way faster than not sharpening and not resting.
Family Reflections:
What does your family do to renew and refresh the health of your relationships? Plan an outing or a family fun night.
To refresh the health of our relationships, we go out to eat and we watch tv or play board games together. We usually eat out on Saturdays, so it's considered as an outing?
Lesson 29
Extensions:
Synergy in Action
Synergy in Action
HANDOUT
Draw team:
Well, I don't really know what to do... A team is made up of people working together to achieve a goal that can not be reached, or it may take more time to reach, if it only took one person.
Family reflections:
How can members of your family help you achieve better results in school?
My parents could help me study for big tests by testing me, and they can give me suggestions of what to do on a project. Or, for example in math, I can ask my dad about a question I don't understand. They have been in this world longer than I have, so they have much more knowledge and I can gain a lot from them.
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Lesson 28
Extensions:
1) Work out a "want" list with someone else for an agreement that you're trying to reach with someone. Then, make a list of possible "third alternative" solutions that would be good for both parties.
Their wants:
-Get her dishes done
My wants:
-finish my project
Their don't want list:
-be late for a tv show
My don't want list:
-stay up late to finish project
Third alternatives:
-my mom could help me a bit by cutting stuff up while I go wash her dishes
Family Reflections:
Are there any unresolved issues in your home that could use some synergy? Walk through the steps to synergy or see if you can come to a solution that makes everyone happy.
There aren't really any unresolved issues in my home, but the steps to synergy are important in solving problems in families.
1) Work out a "want" list with someone else for an agreement that you're trying to reach with someone. Then, make a list of possible "third alternative" solutions that would be good for both parties.
Their wants:
-Get her dishes done
My wants:
-finish my project
Their don't want list:
-be late for a tv show
My don't want list:
-stay up late to finish project
Third alternatives:
-my mom could help me a bit by cutting stuff up while I go wash her dishes
Family Reflections:
Are there any unresolved issues in your home that could use some synergy? Walk through the steps to synergy or see if you can come to a solution that makes everyone happy.
There aren't really any unresolved issues in my home, but the steps to synergy are important in solving problems in families.
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
Lesson 27
Extensions:
I am not really sure what to do about this... criticizing, complaining, comparing, competing... well they all have negative effects on synergy.
criticizing is not good any time, and it damages people's relationships
complaining is really annoying, because complaining about other's ideas isn't synergy, because you aren't excepting others opinions.
comparing isn't good either, because synergy is about putting together ideas, and not trying to see who's ideas are better.
Competing is definitely not good. What's the boint of working together if you are going to go against each other?
Family Reflections:
Choose a recent decision you and your family made that had everyone's input. Did you synergize or compromise?
A recent decision might be deciding whether I should quit figure skating or not (that was a few months ago, but my family doesn't really make huge decisions) We compromised, because I didn't want to quit skating, but my mom was worried that I wouldn't have enough time to do homework in highschool, and I thought thta was a reasonable reason too. So I said that if I quit skating, then they should give me more time on the computer (since I had more time to do work) and yea... it wasn't really a compromise, but the choice was one or the other, so I didn't have much to say. Whoever had the better reasoning won I guess.
I am not really sure what to do about this... criticizing, complaining, comparing, competing... well they all have negative effects on synergy.
criticizing is not good any time, and it damages people's relationships
complaining is really annoying, because complaining about other's ideas isn't synergy, because you aren't excepting others opinions.
comparing isn't good either, because synergy is about putting together ideas, and not trying to see who's ideas are better.
Competing is definitely not good. What's the boint of working together if you are going to go against each other?
Family Reflections:
Choose a recent decision you and your family made that had everyone's input. Did you synergize or compromise?
A recent decision might be deciding whether I should quit figure skating or not (that was a few months ago, but my family doesn't really make huge decisions) We compromised, because I didn't want to quit skating, but my mom was worried that I wouldn't have enough time to do homework in highschool, and I thought thta was a reasonable reason too. So I said that if I quit skating, then they should give me more time on the computer (since I had more time to do work) and yea... it wasn't really a compromise, but the choice was one or the other, so I didn't have much to say. Whoever had the better reasoning won I guess.
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Lesson 26
Extensions:
Family Reflections:
Is there anyone in your extended family that you could get along with better? What can you do to start making things better between the two of you?
I think I could get along better with my cousin, who is in grade four right now. He is sometimes okay, but half the time a real jerk. He really gets in my nerves. I think I could start explaining to him why I don't like the way he behaves sometimes, instead of just yelling at him (even though he sometimes really deserved that). After all, we do get along sometimes too. I could do more things that he liked, such as board games, and not just tell him to do his homework everytime he comes over.
HANDOUT
1) Write down an important issue that you, your community, your school, or your family is facing right now. Maybe it's bullying at school, a dress code, or a community issue.
Issue/problem:
Organize a group of four or five people to discuss the issue you chose. Individually, think of ways to improve or change the problem.
1. Fill in the thought bubbles below with the different solutions each of you come up with.
1) We can organise an old electrionics recycling event, to recycle old and broken electronics that would be very harmful if it ended up in the dump.
2) We can motivate people to not dump toxic things down the drain.
3) We can encourage people not to buy things with plastic wrappings, and always use re-usable bags, and not plastic bags.
4) We can remind people to always turn the tap off when they aren't using it.
We can motivate people by posting the amount of energy used each week, and when people see that their actions have done some good, they will feel like they have actually helped. We can also make some competitions for prizes, like who can plant the most trees, or who can use the least water that week.
3. Together decide which solution will make the biggest difference. Write your group's idea in the solution box
SOLUTION BOX.
Family Reflections:
Is there anyone in your extended family that you could get along with better? What can you do to start making things better between the two of you?
I think I could get along better with my cousin, who is in grade four right now. He is sometimes okay, but half the time a real jerk. He really gets in my nerves. I think I could start explaining to him why I don't like the way he behaves sometimes, instead of just yelling at him (even though he sometimes really deserved that). After all, we do get along sometimes too. I could do more things that he liked, such as board games, and not just tell him to do his homework everytime he comes over.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Lesson 25
Extensions:
Um... Not really sure what to do...
Family Reflections:
Decide as a family to model "clear communication" this week, in other words, attentively listening, using appropriate body language, and speaking calmly. Discuss with each other the difference clearly communicating made on your household.
Clear communication made us avoid a lot of misuderstandings, and made each other feel a lot more understood by each other. Clear communication is very important in a healthy relationship with your family members. Just small things like looking each other in the eye, and REALLY listen and not just hear what each other is saying. And to be calm and don't try to make yourself understood by shouting at each other. First you have to seek to understand the other person, then to be understood yourself.
HANDOUT
Um... Not really sure what to do...
Family Reflections:
Decide as a family to model "clear communication" this week, in other words, attentively listening, using appropriate body language, and speaking calmly. Discuss with each other the difference clearly communicating made on your household.
Clear communication made us avoid a lot of misuderstandings, and made each other feel a lot more understood by each other. Clear communication is very important in a healthy relationship with your family members. Just small things like looking each other in the eye, and REALLY listen and not just hear what each other is saying. And to be calm and don't try to make yourself understood by shouting at each other. First you have to seek to understand the other person, then to be understood yourself.
Lesson 24
Extensions:
Nothing...
Family Reflections:
Review the effectiveness of Z's communication in the video. What are examples of the ways your family communicates with one another effectively? In what instances are your family's communications ineffective?
Z communicated really well to Nettie about her problems with her family, and he helped her feel better. To communicate better, we need to try to understand each other first, and we need to make the other person know that we understand, and that we are listening. Some examples of effective communication with me and my parents, are when I am very stressed out over a bunch of homework, and my parents decided to help me by doing some things that they can do such as cutting stuff out, and telling me that it's okay, and if I take things step by step, I will be able to finish. We listen to each other, and not just hear.
Nothing...
Family Reflections:
Review the effectiveness of Z's communication in the video. What are examples of the ways your family communicates with one another effectively? In what instances are your family's communications ineffective?
Z communicated really well to Nettie about her problems with her family, and he helped her feel better. To communicate better, we need to try to understand each other first, and we need to make the other person know that we understand, and that we are listening. Some examples of effective communication with me and my parents, are when I am very stressed out over a bunch of homework, and my parents decided to help me by doing some things that they can do such as cutting stuff out, and telling me that it's okay, and if I take things step by step, I will be able to finish. We listen to each other, and not just hear.
Sunday, April 11, 2010
Lesson 23
Extensions:
Find a place where you'll see a lot of people. Based on what you are observing, how important is nonverbal communication?
For example, at the park, there are people laughing and playing. Non-verbal communication is, for example, laughing and smiling, because it gives people the impression that you're having fun, and words don't exactly express that the same way. Most of the people's communication is non-verbal, even though you here alot of verbal communication in busy places. People have to observe each other's expressions and hand gestures to get most of the info of what the other person is trying to communicate.
Family Reflections:
What are some of the nonverbal ways your family communicates, e.g.., body language & attitude? How do you all interpret those signals?
My family doesn't use hand gestures that much, but we can get a lot from our body posture, and our facial expressions. For example, if someone crosses their arms and looks the other way, they want to be left alone. If someone is laughing and smiling, then we go on making jokes. It is very often the little things, such as, if the person is avoiding eye contact, or looking straight at you. But mainly I think I interpret my family with mostly facial expressions. I use alot of hand gestures, but my parents really aren't very used to that, so the way someone is sitting or standing, or someone's attitude towards something is important. Well me and my parents have known each other for a long time, so it is really not that difficult to interpret these signs and signals.
Find a place where you'll see a lot of people. Based on what you are observing, how important is nonverbal communication?
For example, at the park, there are people laughing and playing. Non-verbal communication is, for example, laughing and smiling, because it gives people the impression that you're having fun, and words don't exactly express that the same way. Most of the people's communication is non-verbal, even though you here alot of verbal communication in busy places. People have to observe each other's expressions and hand gestures to get most of the info of what the other person is trying to communicate.
Family Reflections:
What are some of the nonverbal ways your family communicates, e.g.., body language & attitude? How do you all interpret those signals?
My family doesn't use hand gestures that much, but we can get a lot from our body posture, and our facial expressions. For example, if someone crosses their arms and looks the other way, they want to be left alone. If someone is laughing and smiling, then we go on making jokes. It is very often the little things, such as, if the person is avoiding eye contact, or looking straight at you. But mainly I think I interpret my family with mostly facial expressions. I use alot of hand gestures, but my parents really aren't very used to that, so the way someone is sitting or standing, or someone's attitude towards something is important. Well me and my parents have known each other for a long time, so it is really not that difficult to interpret these signs and signals.
Friday, March 19, 2010
lesson 22
Extensions:
I really get angry when my dad doesn't understand when I talk to my friends on the internet to work on projects. He always thinks I've been talking to them since I got on the computer. Well I haven't, and I don't see, since I don't have their phone numbers, and they aren't right beside me, how I am supposed to communicate with my partners in any way. He is right about how staring at the screen hurts my eyes, but it's kind of annoying when he yells at me as soon as he sees me on gmail -.-
In groups of three, tell your story. One person will play the role of the Translator and listen genuinely to the emotional content and words. The Translator will then convey your feelings and words to the third person who will give a mirroring response back to you.When you have finished, switch roles so that each person gets to play the role of the Translator.
Uh, I play the part of the translater...
Someone is annoyed at their parents for not enough work time on their computer. I translate to the parent why the child needs the computer and why it is very important that the person gets to use it. The parent starts yelling back about how they should limit their time on the computer, or else their eyes will go bad. I translate with a nice tone of voice that the parent is just telling you to use less time on the computer for the person's own good.
Family Reflections:
Get your family together and decide to practice listening with your heart this week. Discuss among your family how you all feel when you're really listened to.
When we are listened to, we tend to feel more cared for, and somebody actually understands you. It kind of gives you more of a sense of belonging in your home.
Translate this...
I really get angry when my dad doesn't understand when I talk to my friends on the internet to work on projects. He always thinks I've been talking to them since I got on the computer. Well I haven't, and I don't see, since I don't have their phone numbers, and they aren't right beside me, how I am supposed to communicate with my partners in any way. He is right about how staring at the screen hurts my eyes, but it's kind of annoying when he yells at me as soon as he sees me on gmail -.-
In groups of three, tell your story. One person will play the role of the Translator and listen genuinely to the emotional content and words. The Translator will then convey your feelings and words to the third person who will give a mirroring response back to you.When you have finished, switch roles so that each person gets to play the role of the Translator.
Uh, I play the part of the translater...
Someone is annoyed at their parents for not enough work time on their computer. I translate to the parent why the child needs the computer and why it is very important that the person gets to use it. The parent starts yelling back about how they should limit their time on the computer, or else their eyes will go bad. I translate with a nice tone of voice that the parent is just telling you to use less time on the computer for the person's own good.
Family Reflections:
Get your family together and decide to practice listening with your heart this week. Discuss among your family how you all feel when you're really listened to.
When we are listened to, we tend to feel more cared for, and somebody actually understands you. It kind of gives you more of a sense of belonging in your home.
lesson 21
... apparently no extensions?
Family Reflections:
As a family, do you sometimes find yourselves not listening to each other? Does your family use some of the same inattentive listening styles that you saw on the video?
I sometimes listen to my mom using the pretend listening style, because I was doing something else, I just wasn't interested to what my parents were talking about. My dad sometimes uses the word style, because maybe he doesn't really understand what I was trying to say. My mom listens to me most of the time.
Family Reflections:
As a family, do you sometimes find yourselves not listening to each other? Does your family use some of the same inattentive listening styles that you saw on the video?
I sometimes listen to my mom using the pretend listening style, because I was doing something else, I just wasn't interested to what my parents were talking about. My dad sometimes uses the word style, because maybe he doesn't really understand what I was trying to say. My mom listens to me most of the time.
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
lesson 20
From now on, I will be writing my go stuff here
Lesson 20 extensions:
Win-win agreement form:
Date:
Party one: My dad Party two: Me
What are the desired results?
I will wash the dishes so my dad can have time to help me with a homework
What are the available resources?
my homework and the dishes...?
What are the guide lines?
I will wash the dishes while my dad looks over my homework.
How will progress be seen?
I will finish wash the dishes, and he will finish looking over my work so he can help me
What are the concequences/benefits if completed or not?
The benefit will be my dad will help me, and he doesn't have to wash dishes.
Lesson 20 family reflections:
Are there any situations at home that could benefit or be guided more clearly by drawing up a win-win agreement?
Yes there is. I can make a deal with my mom, that I will clean the toilet every sunday, and she could let me make more smoothies by myself :D I do not like cleaning the toilet, and this agreement will settle alot of arguements.
Lesson 20 extensions:
Win-win agreement form:
Date:
Party one: My dad Party two: Me
What are the desired results?
I will wash the dishes so my dad can have time to help me with a homework
What are the available resources?
my homework and the dishes...?
What are the guide lines?
I will wash the dishes while my dad looks over my homework.
How will progress be seen?
I will finish wash the dishes, and he will finish looking over my work so he can help me
What are the concequences/benefits if completed or not?
The benefit will be my dad will help me, and he doesn't have to wash dishes.
Lesson 20 family reflections:
Are there any situations at home that could benefit or be guided more clearly by drawing up a win-win agreement?
Yes there is. I can make a deal with my mom, that I will clean the toilet every sunday, and she could let me make more smoothies by myself :D I do not like cleaning the toilet, and this agreement will settle alot of arguements.
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